The Space for Expatriates

Rebecca Speaks and So Do Her Readers

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When I wrote my book first as a blog, these are some of the comments or reviews I got before I published:

Rebecca, I wanted to let you know I just found your blog the other day and read and read and read. I have a special "something" to share with you...as I read about your friend, bling bling cowgirl my heart was so touched with sadness. I then saw a picture of her when you first met on Day of the Dead '09. I was there with my hubby and we were sitting at the table beside her and I think Chuck....anyway, the dogs dressed up caught my eye and I videoed them with Janet. I could not believe that by the stoke of luck I find your blog, read about Janet and her passing and then realize WHAT A SMALL WORLD!!! I looked at my video and there she is playing with her dear doggie. My heart wanted your heart to know I am surprised the universe caused me to discover this blog and for what reason who knows....Janet is in my world now thanks to video and your blog. the few girlfriends I told this story to all said I should contact you and share this with you. Please know you have touched me with your words of love you spoke of your dear friend and I wish you happiness in Mexico....

Hi Rebecca...We dont know each other personally, altho seemingly have lots in common...I live in Ft laud for the past 28 yrs and have great passion for SMA...I am 55 yrs young and bored shitless w my life...I am so ready for change....My mind has me living in SMA thinking all will be grand...Have been there at least 10+ x's......I am fearful for this will be a move done completely alone...My (3) kids are all big people and i feel its time to dump the big house and make a move...I know you live in Mexico, have found love and seem happy as a lark....Do you mind befriending me and helping me in my ever so confused mind???....I was a clothing designer for many yrs and for the past 10 yrs in realestate...Im over it all!!!!...I need a re-birthing, along with some tequila this may be possible....Many thanx for your time....I also have done the numerous dating websites and im sick of the lack of quality....Dear Abby....LOL.....LUV your blog.

Though we knew each other for such a relatively short period of time I found that your effect on me was, by turns, gob-smacking, euphoric, worrying, wisdom-inducing, incredibly exciting, heart-breaking and, ultimately more valuable than I ever had a right to expect.

I think every man needs to have had a Rebecca Angelique Rochelle Harrand Lewis Fass in his life. I have been blessed to know, love and be loved by some incredible women. I count you among them.

In reviewing your blog and FB page, it's clear that you've had a very full and interesting life. I always knew that you were one of those people who would never be satisfied to simply sit in the stands, but were born to throw a rope on life, mount up and ride until the buzzer sounds. Good for you, old friend!

I'm very sorry about your health issues. Funny how the brightest candles tend to burn out the fastest
As a callow youth I never had the sense or sensitivity to thank you for your service to our country. I do so now with regret for what it seems to have cost you.

Down here in the memory hole you will always be that gorgeous, willowy young brunette I knew in High School.

hi Rebecca, i like what you post on your blog, and I wish some day I can travel, and have my own money.. I just divorced after 19 years married, and need to learn to work , so I can afford my self,
I am sorry my english is not perfRebecca,
, jaja, but I love english, and thanks for your words.

I don't even know how to start this. I am an old friend of Janet's and hadn't heard from her in a long time. Got to thinking about her and went on to Facebook and saw all the messages. I don't know how I never saw it before, but I didn't. I am so shocked and sad. Can you please tell me what happened? I am sick to my stomach and filled with so much regret that I didn't find out about this sooner. I am from Colorado and we worked together at Tenacoect
I am so sorry Rebecca. Sorry for your loss of a dear friend and sorry to bring this all up again. I looked at your blog, but I couldn't go back far enough to read it all. I don't know how it came up that we became friends on Facebook, but somehow, without sounding weird, I feel it was for a reason. I guess I just want you to know if you ever want to talk, I would be honored to just listen.

Wow! What a read. I just went through everything posted now on your blog. We have a very similiar background with ex's. My was 44 and I was 22 when we married. After 23 years I told him that I was going to file for divorce. I, of course, was trusting that CA was a community property state and I and the girls would be OK. When the lawyer finally filed, everything was gone - money and investments were out of the country, my name was removed from everything and he hired 3 top attorneys to ruin me financially and spiritually. The house was forclosed on and a notice nailed to our front door. I didn't know he hadn't paid the mortgage for 6 months. The girls and I ended up on welfare and food stamps and even spent a few nights in the car - which he had tried to take away from me too and my father had given it to me. Revenge - Revenge. When the court ordered child support, he disappeared. We never heard from him again. Not for the girl's birthdays, Christmas, never. They were abandoned at 12 and 10 years old - very fragile ages for girls who really loved their Dad. Both are in long term relationships but have never married - even though one has a 3 year old daughter. I think they don't trust the institution of marriage and keep their financial independence and their own businesses or jobs apart from their shared lives with their partners. I slowly recovered from a situation in which if I made a suggestion I was told: "When you make as much money as I do, then you can have a say in this relationship." It took a long time to trust again, and I know I'm still not there yet, even though I have been with my present husband for 17 years. I can snap very easily if he makes a mistake or does something with money that I'm not told about beforehand - even when it's a few hundred dollars I start thinking about divorce. That's bad. We all survive and learn to cope with our pasts and our nightmares. But there are wounds that really never go away and continue to haunt and overshadow our freedom of spirit. JUDY

hi Rebecca... I hope you are fine... I live in chapala.. and I see that you have many friends by your blog and facebook.. I want to meet people, I was married 19 years, so I dont know how or where to meet guys and have fun in a nice way of course, because here in mexico people are more traditional to that... if you have friends you can suggest me to meet please do so.. I dont want to be an amargada en spanish... hugs to you.

So she finished her book eh? Good for her....writing is such a great therapy. I miss her...I have always admired Rebecca and though of her as one of the smartest chics I have ever known. She has a big heart and is nothing but kind.

Just finished your book..I am glad to know you...brave, honest and kind....

Good Luck, chica!!!! i plan to read your 7 chapters in the near future! I think it is a FAB concept - and I think you will be
VERY successful with it!
All the best

Totaly proud for you. Janet is smiling!!!

You AMAZE me with how much you continue to live a wildly creative life, Bekka! Felicidades!!!

put your cowboy hat on. Robert's son lives in Whitefish Montana. Have not seen an abundance of men there. but why don't you head over there? Pr

Congratulations Bekka...Wishing you incredible success with your new book, I am sure it will be a good read!!!!.
Abrasitos,

Good for you!!! I am so glad to hear it, I will order a copy soon-right now on book promo tour
Best
GREAT..let them put it in to the Atencion girl!!!!

i remember you telling me about your girlfriend's death in Houston but you never mentioned she was tragically murdered. How dreadful and also you pointed out how The Brit never did anything to show her respect and you were brutally disappointed. Thanks for sharing Bekkaa! I am so proud of you, btw- how is your health these days? I was worried when you contracted Hep from you know who?

I FINISHED YOUR BOOK AT 2 AM, INTERESTING. YOU SHOW DIFFERENT PEOPLE DIFFERENT SIDES OF YOURSELF. CAN'T QUITE DETERMINE IF I SEE YOU MORE CLEARLY OR IF I AM MORE CONFUSED..YOU ARE MY DAUGHTER AND PERHAPS I SEE YOU AS I WANT TO ? Your sister IS NEXT TO READ IT. DAD GLANCED THRU IT. SORRY YOU HAD TO GO THRU THE ILLNESS YOURSELF WITHOUT FAMILY..BUT I THINK YOU WANTED IT THAT WAY?? YOU ALWAYS WERE A BIT OF A LONER.(even as a child you were an "I DO IT" girl) I SO HOPE YOU WILL NOT LET ANOTHER MAN USE YOU LIKE The Vampire DID..SOME ARE APPARENTLY SO JADED THEY NEED TO LIVE OFF WOMEN.

Wow i just read "Skinned by a Vampire" i assumed it would be about your X here but i guess you met another in Ajijic (sp?) i can't believe you endured all of this and are still living Bekka. You certainly put it out there- bravo